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Saturday, 16 January 2021
18. Cries or rages when held beyond his wishes Print
He never wanted to be held unless he was facing away and still he was in and out of my lap.  If I tried to have him face me, cradle him, or keep him in my lap, he would go into a rage that never seemed to settle unless I put him down or in his crib.  When I explained this to our SW she said that if I continued to hold him, there should be an a-ha moment and then he'd settle in my arms.  We never had an "a-ha moment" until after therapy, lots of attachment parenting, and almost one year home. (a. 6mo, FC)
I have rarely been able to hold her for any length of time, with the exception of very brief "happy" periods during the past 3 years.  If I attempt to hold her facing me, whether sitting up or being cradled, she will arch her back and attempt to wriggle away.  If I do not immediately let her down, she will begin to rage.  She will kick both feet and punch the bed or sofa with her fists, arch her back, cry, howl like an injured animal, and grind her teeth.  This can go on for as long as 1.5 hours. (a. 11mo, FC)
He didn't like to be held against my body--especially in a cradled position.   He would immediately tense up and try to wiggle out of the hold.  He would push, pull, kick, hit--anything to be put down.  He would start out crying a little and then would start screaming and sweating and raging, all the while avoiding looking at my face.  If I continued to hold him in this way, he would eventually settle down and then would give me lots of eye contact, smiles and soft touches.  (a. 6 mo, FC)
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