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Saturday, 16 January 2021
10. Looks sad or empty-eyed Print

I call this the "little lost girl" look. Nearly every picture we have of her from our first 2 years together looks like this. Playing at the park, Christmas, eating birthday cake--it doesn't matter. If you cover up everything in the pictures but her eyes, you see nothing but blank emptiness. After over a year of working on attachment, people who see her and/or pictures of her comment on her "sparkle." (a. 11mo, FC)
I didn't realize this till I looked back at pictures.  There are very few pictures of her smiling.  She looks very melancholy and lost.  I didn't notice it as much in the day-to-day care of her.  It took looking back at pictures for it to jump out at me. (a. 7mo, FC)
My daughter's eyes often look only halfway open in pictures.  Her eyes also look droopy and unfocused in pictures.  Immediately after we started working on attachment with her, her eyes opened up!  They actually became bigger.  A friend commented to me how my daughter's eyes got bigger since she first arrived home.  (a. 4.5 mo, FC)
This was evident in almost every picture from the first moment we met him to about 15 mos. old.  He didn't smile in the pictures and his eyes looked so sad.  He had the same look in every one---his mouth is open a bit, his face long and his eyes look like he is saying---‘help”.  (a. 6mo, FC)
I can see this when I look back in photos.  I occasionally thought about it at the time, but I mostly registered the constant whining/unhappiness.  (a. 5.5mo, FC)

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