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Saturday, 16 January 2021
8. Angry or rageful when cries Print
Starting at about 11 months of age, our very happy son began to show his anger.  If a sibling made him mad (unprovoked), he would scream.  He was easily frustrated by other people and by small tasks.  A typical example was when he tried unsuccessfully to carry four balls at once.  This caused an immediate rageful cry.  By 12 months of age, if he got mad, he'd SCREAM and look for someone to bite.  At around 15 months, if no one were close enough to bite, he'd bite himself or the furniture or pull his own hair.  (a. 5.5mo, FC) 
About 4 months after she came home, I was holding her and she was fussing sort of half-heartedly with her eyes closed.  She did not like me to hold her in the cradle position, but I was gently insisting.  After a while, I whispered to her, “Do you miss your Oma?"  She stopped fussing immediately.  Her eyes snapped open.  She looked at me for 2 or 3 seconds.  I said it again.  "Do you miss your Oma?"  She leaned her head back, opened her mouth and wailed.  She screamed a bloodcurdling, heart-wrenching scream.  She went on to weep for quite some time.  It sent chills down my spine.  I realized at that moment that babies DO remember.  (a.7mo, FC)
At around 10 mos. of age, he began the tantrums.  If he didn't get what he wanted or even if he was hurt or hungry, he would throw himself on the floor and scream and bang his head.  He would cry so hard that his face would turn red and he would start sweating!  The anger that was coming out of his little body was startling.  He seemed mad at the world.  He never really developed "different cries" for hunger, pain etc. They all sounded angry. (a. 6 mo, FC)
One thing I noticed about 4 months after arrival was that my son did not have different cries.  When he cried, it was very angry and full of rage.  It didn't seem possible that a baby could be that angry.  He also had that same angry cry for everything.  His reactions seemed over-the-top for even the most minor of things, and once he started it was very difficult and often impossible to console him. (a. 6mo, FC)
In the early weeks that he was home, my son very rarely cried.  After about four months when he did cry it was a very angry one.  He used the same angry cry for every need and want.  He never seemed to develop different cries for different reasons.  The slightest thing like finishing a drink made him angry and it became harder and harder to console that angry cry.  Even if we gave him more drink, he was already too far gone to recognize that he had more.   He grew especially rageful when I had to do something like change a diaper.  He could cry with such rage that I felt like I was walking on eggshells not wanting to upset him in any way. (a. 6mo, FC)
When children get injured and cry out in pain, it's a sharp cry followed by a few seconds of silence and then more crying.  Well, for my son, what followed the brief silence was a very angry cry.  I can't recall exactly when his cries of pain turned into angry cries, but I think it was when he was around one year old.  But after working on attachment for 2.5 months, the anger in his cries of pain has completely disappeared!  (a. 4.5 mo, FC)
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